[Java] Support large buffer for file/stream IPC

[asfimport]

After supporting 64-bit ArrowBuf, we need to make file/stream IPC work.

Reporter: Liya Fan / @liyafan82
Assignee: Liya Fan / @liyafan82

Related issues:

• [Java] Finish support for 64 bit int allocations (is blocked by)

PRs and other links:

• GitHub Pull Request #7071

_{Note: This issue was originally created as ARROW-7955. Please see the migration documentation for further details.}