[C++] Update bundled Abseil and gRPC

[raulcd]

Describe the enhancement requested

We are currently using an Abseil version from 2021:

arrow/cpp/thirdparty/versions.txt

Lines 26 to 27 in 5a042fc

	ARROW_ABSL_BUILD_VERSION=20211102.0
	ARROW_ABSL_BUILD_SHA256_CHECKSUM=dcf71b9cba8dc0ca9940c4b316a0c796be8fab42b070bb6b7cab62b48f0e66c4

And a gRPC from 2022 (https://github.com/grpc/grpc/releases/tag/v1.46.2):

arrow/cpp/thirdparty/versions.txt

Lines 77 to 78 in 5a042fc

	ARROW_GRPC_BUILD_VERSION=v1.46.3
	ARROW_GRPC_BUILD_SHA256_CHECKSUM=d6cbf22cb5007af71b61c6be316a79397469c58c82a942552a62e708bce60964

We should update those dependencies.

Component(s)

C++

[assignUser]

I have a PR I dropped to do this, the target tree changed which makes this annoying IIRC #37066

[assignUser]

Hm I guess I never pushed the changes, as the PR is just the changed versions.txt, I remember trying to move over absl to fetch content but that also meant moving over the dependencies/dependents and grew out of hand quickly

[raulcd]

Do you recall why did you drop the issue? I can't see logs for what was going on that PR. I am trying to figure out the current failure which seems to be a common one as per #45064 (comment) , basically solving:

/build/cpp/grpc_ep-prefix/src/grpc_ep/include/grpcpp/impl/codegen/config_protobuf.h:81:10: fatal error: absl/status/status.h: No such file or directory
   81 | #include "absl/status/status.h"
      |          ^~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

[assignUser]

Because of external project we have to replicate the abseil target tree, there is a bash oneliner commented in thirdparty cmake that explains it. And I think there were changes there that require it to be regenerated but it has been a long time.