GH-38879: [C++][Gandiva] Fix Gandiva to_date function's validation for supress errors parameter

[niyue]

Rationale for this change

• This PR fixes the to_date_utf8_utf8_int32 gandiva function to avoid crash for invalid input

What changes are included in this PR?

• A bug fix for to_date_utf8_utf8_int32 parameter validation

Are these changes tested?

Yes, new tests are added to verify non literal input won't crash the to_date_utf8_utf8_int32 function

Are there any user-facing changes?

No

• Closes: [C++][Gandiva] to_date_utf8_utf8_int32 function's suppress_errors parameter causes segfault for non literal input #38879

[kou]

+1

[conbench-apache-arrow]

After merging your PR, Conbench analyzed the 6 benchmarking runs that have been run so far on merge-commit d66780d.

There were 2 benchmark results indicating a performance regression:

• Commit Run on ursa-i9-9960x at 2023-12-01 00:33:22Z
  • tpch (R) with engine=arrow, format=native, language=R, memory_map=False, query_id=TPCH-01, scale_factor=1
  • tpch (R) with engine=arrow, format=native, language=R, memory_map=False, query_id=TPCH-04, scale_factor=1

The full Conbench report has more details. It also includes information about 5 possible false positives for unstable benchmarks that are known to sometimes produce them.