[branch-1.1-lts](cherry-pick) Support Jemalloc

[xinyiZzz]

Proposed changes

Issue Number: close #xxx

Problem summary

pick:
#12577
#12496

step1: Need to update the third-party library
step2: USE_JEMALLOC=ON sh build.sh --be -j 48 --clean

Checklist(Required)

1. Does it affect the original behavior:
   • Yes
   • No
   • I don't know
2. Has unit tests been added:
   • Yes
   • No
   • No Need
3. Has document been added or modified:
   • Yes
   • No
   • No Need
4. Does it need to update dependencies:
   • Yes
   • No
5. Are there any changes that cannot be rolled back:
   • Yes (If Yes, please explain WHY)
   • No

Further comments

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