[enhancement](memory) Default Jemalloc as generic memory allocator

[xinyiZzz]

Proposed changes

Issue Number: close #xxx

Problem summary

gperftools/tcmalloc[https://github.com/gperftools/gperftools] is outdated, there are no new features for many years, only fix bugs. doris is currently used by default.

google/tcmalloc[https://github.com/google/tcmalloc], very active recently, has many new features, and is expected to perform better than jemalloc, but there is currently no stable version.
Moreover, the compilation dependencies are complex and difficult to integrate, and are incompatible with gperftools/tcmalloc, and there are few reference documents.

jemalloc[https://github.com/jemalloc/jemalloc] performs better than gperftools/tcmalloc under high concurrency, and is mature and stable, looking forward to being the default memory allocator.
Tested in Doris: #12496

Checklist(Required)

1. Does it affect the original behavior:
   • Yes
   • No
   • I don't know
2. Has unit tests been added:
   • Yes
   • No
   • No Need
3. Has document been added or modified:
   • Yes
   • No
   • No Need
4. Does it need to update dependencies:
   • Yes
   • No
5. Are there any changes that cannot be rolled back:
   • Yes (If Yes, please explain WHY)
   • No

Further comments

If this is a relatively large or complex change, kick off the discussion at dev@doris.apache.org by explaining why you chose the solution you did and what alternatives you considered, etc...

[yiguolei]

LGTM
It's greate, lets open it by default and run more test on master's pipeline.