[cherry-pick](grouping) Add a switch for users to force using alias name in group by and having clause

[xy720]

Proposed changes

cherry-pic #15748 to 1.2-lts

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1. Does it affect the original behavior:
   • Yes
   • No
   • I don't know
2. Has unit tests been added:
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   • No
   • No Need
3. Has document been added or modified:
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4. Does it need to update dependencies:
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5. Are there any changes that cannot be rolled back:
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[morningman]

#15748 has problem, do not cherry pick now

[xy720]

I will fix #15748 first