[branch-2.0](gc tablet) fix get shutdown tablet cost a lot time #27693

[yujun777]

pick: #27693

If gc shutdown tablets take a lot time, it will make TabletManager getting a tablet wait a lot time.

pr #26151 had fix get a running tablet wait a lot time. Also it fix drop a tablet hold a tablet meta lock too long.

But it hadn't fix get a deleted tablet wait a log time. So this pr fix this.

Proposed changes

Issue Number: close #xxx

Further comments

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[yujun777]

run buildall

[github-actions]

clang-tidy review says "All clean, LGTM! 👍"

[doris-robot]

TeamCity be ut coverage result:
Function Coverage: 37.81% (7993/21138)
Line Coverage: 29.49% (64901/220070)
Region Coverage: 28.97% (33394/115274)
Branch Coverage: 24.84% (17136/68980)
Coverage Report: http://coverage.selectdb-in.cc/coverage/9473840f77bde2cefdbde968309e13a2bf869aac_9473840f77bde2cefdbde968309e13a2bf869aac/report/index.html

[doris-robot]

(From new machine)TeamCity pipeline, clickbench performance test result:
the sum of best hot time: 50.75 seconds
stream load tsv: 578 seconds loaded 74807831229 Bytes, about 123 MB/s
stream load json: 20 seconds loaded 2358488459 Bytes, about 112 MB/s
stream load orc: 66 seconds loaded 1101869774 Bytes, about 15 MB/s
stream load parquet: 32 seconds loaded 861443392 Bytes, about 25 MB/s
insert into select: 29.6 seconds inserted 10000000 Rows, about 337K ops/s
storage size: 17163051627 Bytes

[yujun777]

run buildall

[doris-robot]

TeamCity be ut coverage result:
Function Coverage: 37.81% (7993/21138)
Line Coverage: 29.49% (64897/220070)
Region Coverage: 28.97% (33392/115275)
Branch Coverage: 24.84% (17136/68980)
Coverage Report: http://coverage.selectdb-in.cc/coverage/9473840f77bde2cefdbde968309e13a2bf869aac_9473840f77bde2cefdbde968309e13a2bf869aac/report/index.html

[doris-robot]

(From new machine)TeamCity pipeline, clickbench performance test result:
the sum of best hot time: 51.9 seconds
stream load tsv: 582 seconds loaded 74807831229 Bytes, about 122 MB/s
stream load json: 19 seconds loaded 2358488459 Bytes, about 118 MB/s
stream load orc: 66 seconds loaded 1101869774 Bytes, about 15 MB/s
stream load parquet: 32 seconds loaded 861443392 Bytes, about 25 MB/s
insert into select: 29.7 seconds inserted 10000000 Rows, about 336K ops/s
storage size: 17162086565 Bytes