[branch-3.0]Add customStdAllocator for vector/map (#41193)

[wangbo]

pick #41193

[wangbo]

run buildall

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[doris-robot]

TPC-H: Total hot run time: 41194 ms

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/tpch-tools
Tpch sf100 test result on commit 96e87eb1476f722e30e3092de5b65c5123899257, data reload: false

------ Round 1 ----------------------------------
q1	17652	7429	7238	7238
q2	2058	168	162	162
q3	10562	1093	1116	1093
q4	10235	759	777	759
q5	7905	2950	2920	2920
q6	235	154	147	147
q7	999	628	623	623
q8	9358	1958	2009	1958
q9	6726	6486	6544	6486
q10	7875	2331	2348	2331
q11	477	275	267	267
q12	410	220	225	220
q13	19535	2979	3018	2979
q14	246	218	211	211
q15	561	516	525	516
q16	682	591	587	587
q17	993	596	581	581
q18	7407	6625	6679	6625
q19	1441	1022	1080	1022
q20	470	206	198	198
q21	4034	3315	3284	3284
q22	1119	987	1002	987
Total cold run time: 110980 ms
Total hot run time: 41194 ms

----- Round 2, with runtime_filter_mode=off -----
q1	7219	7307	7192	7192
q2	335	231	245	231
q3	3185	2934	2994	2934
q4	2055	1816	1838	1816
q5	5690	5788	5744	5744
q6	227	134	136	134
q7	2202	1831	1780	1780
q8	3319	3552	3498	3498
q9	8897	8871	8944	8871
q10	3573	3584	3561	3561
q11	598	489	507	489
q12	809	573	606	573
q13	8015	3139	3133	3133
q14	307	282	262	262
q15	568	527	522	522
q16	680	638	649	638
q17	1851	1611	1579	1579
q18	8355	7888	7582	7582
q19	1654	1562	1633	1562
q20	2035	1813	1812	1812
q21	5435	5132	5263	5132
q22	1078	991	976	976
Total cold run time: 68087 ms
Total hot run time: 60021 ms

[doris-robot]

TPC-DS: Total hot run time: 191131 ms

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/tpcds-tools
TPC-DS sf100 test result on commit 96e87eb1476f722e30e3092de5b65c5123899257, data reload: false

query1	971	374	361	361
query2	6528	2089	2015	2015
query3	6704	218	220	218
query4	34017	23857	23414	23414
query5	4306	468	446	446
query6	271	183	192	183
query7	4622	319	321	319
query8	290	226	216	216
query9	9499	2702	2680	2680
query10	481	266	278	266
query11	18139	15373	15104	15104
query12	155	100	100	100
query13	1629	439	416	416
query14	10038	6895	6745	6745
query15	246	169	185	169
query16	8100	446	474	446
query17	1625	585	554	554
query18	2117	315	308	308
query19	262	162	159	159
query20	115	108	107	107
query21	211	108	107	107
query22	4543	4349	3981	3981
query23	34699	33925	33948	33925
query24	11167	2915	2866	2866
query25	689	419	412	412
query26	1452	171	179	171
query27	2896	346	336	336
query28	8029	2420	2414	2414
query29	964	434	433	433
query30	326	159	156	156
query31	1002	770	795	770
query32	101	58	58	58
query33	779	301	298	298
query34	957	517	534	517
query35	926	721	718	718
query36	1091	949	934	934
query37	136	73	75	73
query38	4037	3863	3916	3863
query39	1503	1425	1427	1425
query40	287	98	97	97
query41	51	50	60	50
query42	116	105	102	102
query43	531	483	496	483
query44	1283	816	803	803
query45	183	164	165	164
query46	1147	707	711	707
query47	1914	1827	1816	1816
query48	458	370	389	370
query49	1183	387	388	387
query50	821	421	420	420
query51	7151	7028	7205	7028
query52	103	96	90	90
query53	266	200	186	186
query54	1295	465	465	465
query55	80	77	79	77
query56	264	238	245	238
query57	1258	1115	1114	1114
query58	234	210	207	207
query59	3207	3032	2934	2934
query60	291	272	261	261
query61	106	109	105	105
query62	918	666	655	655
query63	232	196	192	192
query64	5378	653	641	641
query65	3269	3141	3181	3141
query66	1465	315	314	314
query67	15746	15781	15745	15745
query68	4461	580	589	580
query69	422	280	262	262
query70	1175	1144	1084	1084
query71	339	262	254	254
query72	6423	4263	4191	4191
query73	753	363	367	363
query74	10174	9040	8916	8916
query75	3387	2653	2679	2653
query76	2764	1034	987	987
query77	378	286	279	279
query78	10467	9723	9518	9518
query79	2103	612	611	611
query80	1244	435	422	422
query81	562	239	239	239
query82	904	119	115	115
query83	223	145	145	145
query84	236	79	80	79
query85	1364	300	294	294
query86	415	309	308	308
query87	4533	4263	4227	4227
query88	3908	2435	2389	2389
query89	403	295	308	295
query90	2039	190	194	190
query91	184	147	165	147
query92	72	51	52	51
query93	1736	556	556	556
query94	988	294	300	294
query95	358	264	260	260
query96	625	294	285	285
query97	3284	3159	3219	3159
query98	215	209	197	197
query99	1530	1306	1310	1306
Total cold run time: 302529 ms
Total hot run time: 191131 ms

[doris-robot]

ClickBench: Total hot run time: 32.99 s

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/clickbench-tools
ClickBench test result on commit 96e87eb1476f722e30e3092de5b65c5123899257, data reload: false

query1	0.04	0.04	0.03
query2	0.07	0.03	0.03
query3	0.23	0.07	0.07
query4	1.61	0.11	0.10
query5	0.53	0.52	0.52
query6	1.13	0.73	0.73
query7	0.02	0.02	0.02
query8	0.04	0.03	0.04
query9	0.57	0.52	0.49
query10	0.56	0.56	0.56
query11	0.14	0.10	0.11
query12	0.14	0.11	0.11
query13	0.61	0.60	0.59
query14	2.72	2.76	2.72
query15	0.89	0.84	0.82
query16	0.39	0.37	0.38
query17	1.05	0.98	0.98
query18	0.24	0.21	0.21
query19	1.95	1.90	2.00
query20	0.01	0.02	0.01
query21	15.36	0.61	0.61
query22	2.95	2.40	2.66
query23	16.97	1.06	0.88
query24	3.36	0.50	1.08
query25	0.25	0.21	0.05
query26	0.38	0.14	0.13
query27	0.07	0.04	0.04
query28	11.07	1.12	1.07
query29	12.58	3.26	3.25
query30	0.25	0.06	0.07
query31	2.85	0.40	0.38
query32	3.25	0.46	0.46
query33	2.97	3.07	3.02
query34	16.74	4.47	4.52
query35	4.54	4.52	4.47
query36	0.67	0.50	0.51
query37	0.10	0.06	0.06
query38	0.05	0.04	0.04
query39	0.04	0.02	0.03
query40	0.16	0.13	0.12
query41	0.08	0.02	0.02
query42	0.04	0.02	0.02
query43	0.04	0.03	0.03
Total cold run time: 107.71 s
Total hot run time: 32.99 s

[wangbo]

run buildall