[Bug] Fix concurrent access of _tablets_under_clone in TabletManager

[acelyc111]

Proposed changes

'_tablets_under_clone' in TabletManager is not sharded but the lock
used to prevent concurrent access is sharded, so when shards size
is not 1, it will cause coredump.
This patch fix this bug, and also do some refactor to make shard
locks more convenient to use.

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[morningman]

LGTM