branch-4.0: [mem](jemalloc) Improve memory reuse efficiency and reduce page faults to change jemalloc conf #57076

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Cherry-picked from #57076

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run buildall

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ClickBench: Total hot run time: 32.51 s

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/clickbench-tools
ClickBench test result on commit 46bad94159c258a4d848d1b0b4e78028d98d4378, data reload: true

query1	0.05	0.04	0.03
query2	0.12	0.04	0.04
query3	0.26	0.08	0.08
query4	1.63	0.12	0.12
query5	0.28	0.27	0.26
query6	1.23	0.71	0.69
query7	0.03	0.02	0.03
query8	0.07	0.05	0.04
query9	0.70	0.55	0.55
query10	0.61	0.62	0.62
query11	0.18	0.13	0.12
query12	0.17	0.13	0.12
query13	0.64	0.64	0.62
query14	0.83	0.87	0.88
query15	0.93	0.91	0.90
query16	0.43	0.42	0.43
query17	1.12	1.12	1.14
query18	0.19	0.19	0.20
query19	2.02	1.91	1.91
query20	0.02	0.01	0.01
query21	15.44	1.08	0.69
query22	0.79	1.28	0.85
query23	14.82	1.56	0.73
query24	16.33	1.74	0.72
query25	2.19	0.46	0.23
query26	0.22	0.21	0.22
query27	0.23	0.22	0.06
query28	1.70	1.10	0.98
query29	12.66	4.48	3.78
query30	0.29	0.15	0.11
query31	2.89	0.69	0.42
query32	3.30	0.58	0.49
query33	3.20	3.25	3.17
query34	16.43	5.88	5.13
query35	5.31	5.27	5.26
query36	0.75	0.60	0.56
query37	0.13	0.08	0.07
query38	0.07	0.05	0.05
query39	0.04	0.04	0.03
query40	0.19	0.16	0.15
query41	0.09	0.03	0.04
query42	0.05	0.03	0.03
query43	0.05	0.03	0.04
Total cold run time: 108.68 s
Total hot run time: 32.51 s

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run buildall

[doris-robot]

ClickBench: Total hot run time: 30.61 s

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/clickbench-tools
ClickBench test result on commit 46bad94159c258a4d848d1b0b4e78028d98d4378, data reload: true

query1	0.04	0.03	0.02
query2	0.10	0.03	0.03
query3	0.25	0.07	0.08
query4	1.65	0.11	0.11
query5	0.28	0.25	0.24
query6	1.19	0.64	0.64
query7	0.02	0.02	0.02
query8	0.05	0.04	0.03
query9	0.62	0.51	0.51
query10	0.58	0.56	0.57
query11	0.17	0.11	0.11
query12	0.15	0.11	0.11
query13	0.63	0.60	0.61
query14	0.80	0.81	0.84
query15	0.87	0.86	0.86
query16	0.39	0.41	0.40
query17	1.06	1.04	1.02
query18	0.19	0.18	0.19
query19	1.92	1.81	1.87
query20	0.02	0.01	0.01
query21	15.42	0.92	0.59
query22	0.78	1.20	0.95
query23	14.77	1.38	0.61
query24	5.97	1.07	0.52
query25	0.34	0.16	0.05
query26	0.60	0.15	0.13
query27	0.06	0.05	0.05
query28	10.16	1.40	0.93
query29	12.62	3.87	3.31
query30	0.28	0.13	0.10
query31	2.88	0.57	0.39
query32	3.30	0.61	0.50
query33	3.22	3.36	3.33
query34	17.20	5.81	5.02
query35	5.21	5.14	5.19
query36	0.71	0.50	0.50
query37	0.10	0.07	0.07
query38	0.09	0.04	0.04
query39	0.03	0.02	0.02
query40	0.18	0.14	0.14
query41	0.09	0.03	0.03
query42	0.03	0.03	0.02
query43	0.04	0.03	0.03
Total cold run time: 105.06 s
Total hot run time: 30.61 s