[vectorized][refactor](common) eliminate class COW dependence on boost

[zuochunwei]

Proposed changes

1. replace boost library relative classes & functions with hand writing implement
2. avoid casting for get_ptr()
3. COW and its derived class COWHelper both defined non-virtual member derived() , it is bad practice and should avoid doing like this
4. i try to use deriving from std::unique_ptr to implement mutable_ptr, and deriving from std::shared_ptr to implement immutable_ptr，but it's very difficult to complete because will result in massive modifications

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[HappenLee]

LGTM

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[HappenLee]

Rethink here may cause mem leak? How boost::intrusive_ref_counter prevent the problem