[VL] Bump Spark to 3.5.3

[Yohahaha]

Description

Spark has released v3.5.3, https://spark.apache.org/releases/spark-release-3-5-3.html

[philo-he]

cc @zhouyuan, @weiting-chen, @FelixYBW

[FelixYBW]

Feel free to submit PR.

[zhouyuan]

I have made some draft on Spark 352 support(#7138). The major changes are

• shuffle write API
• query plan tag removed
  The missing part is on shim layers update. Looks like Spark 353 does not introduce big changes. I'll try to push out early next week

thanks, -yuan