fix: bitswap performance issue

[gammazero]

• Fix exhausted wants problem resulting in possible performance issue
• Minor improvements for GC and execution

[codecov]

Codecov Report

Attention: Patch coverage is 74.07407% with 7 lines in your changes missing coverage. Please review.

Project coverage is 60.35%. Comparing base (043c71c) to head (048f932).
Report is 1 commits behind head on main.

Files with missing lines	Patch %	Lines
bitswap/client/internal/session/sessionwants.go	57.14%	2 Missing and 1 partial ⚠️
...wap/client/internal/peermanager/peerwantmanager.go	80.00%	1 Missing ⚠️
...wap/client/internal/session/peerresponsetracker.go	50.00%	1 Missing ⚠️
...tswap/client/internal/session/sessionwantsender.go	66.66%	0 Missing and 1 partial ⚠️
...p/client/internal/sessionmanager/sessionmanager.go	66.66%	1 Missing ⚠️

@@            Coverage Diff             @@
##             main     #692      +/-   ##
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+ Coverage   60.28%   60.35%   +0.07%     
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  Files         242      243       +1     
  Lines       31019    31034      +15     
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+ Hits        18699    18730      +31     
+ Misses      10647    10636      -11     
+ Partials     1673     1668       -5     

Files with missing lines	Coverage Δ
...tswap/client/internal/messagequeue/messagequeue.go	84.92% <100.00%> (ø)
...wap/client/internal/notifications/notifications.go	87.35% <100.00%> (+0.29%)	⬆️
bitswap/client/internal/peermanager/peermanager.go	91.72% <ø> (ø)
...wap/client/internal/peermanager/peerwantmanager.go	88.50% <80.00%> (+0.16%)	⬆️
...wap/client/internal/session/peerresponsetracker.go	96.15% <50.00%> (+3.05%)	⬆️
...tswap/client/internal/session/sessionwantsender.go	95.74% <66.66%> (-0.50%)	⬇️
...p/client/internal/sessionmanager/sessionmanager.go	95.78% <66.66%> (ø)
bitswap/client/internal/session/sessionwants.go	88.99% <57.14%> (-2.44%)	⬇️

... and 11 files with indirect coverage changes

[lidel]

b2554a00b246 looked ok at rainbow staging (staging-2024-10-18-73ff85c):
https://www.notion.so/boxo-690-bitswap-s-live-wantlist-fix-1221def3428780148536c7cca992a07a

Just needs changelog + landing #690 first.