[CUDA] Not link CUDNN sub libs

[tianleiwu]

Description

Do not link cuDNN sub libs.

Before:

 objdump -p libonnxruntime_providers_cuda.so | grep NEEDED
  NEEDED               libcublasLt.so.12
  NEEDED               libcublas.so.12
  NEEDED               libcurand.so.10
  NEEDED               libcufft.so.11
  NEEDED               libcudart.so.12
  NEEDED               libcudnn.so.9
  NEEDED               libcudnn_adv.so.9
  NEEDED               libcudnn_ops.so.9
  NEEDED               libcudnn_cnn.so.9
  NEEDED               libcudnn_graph.so.9
  NEEDED               libcudnn_engines_runtime_compiled.so.9
  NEEDED               libcudnn_engines_precompiled.so.9
  NEEDED               libcudnn_heuristic.so.9
  NEEDED               libdl.so.2
  NEEDED               librt.so.1
  NEEDED               libnvrtc.so.12
  NEEDED               libpthread.so.0
  NEEDED               libstdc++.so.6
  NEEDED               libm.so.6
  NEEDED               libgcc_s.so.1
  NEEDED               libc.so.6
  NEEDED               ld-linux-x86-64.so.2

After:

$ objdump -p libonnxruntime_providers_cuda.so | grep NEEDED
  NEEDED               libcublasLt.so.12
  NEEDED               libcublas.so.12
  NEEDED               libcurand.so.10
  NEEDED               libcufft.so.11
  NEEDED               libcudart.so.12
  NEEDED               libcudnn.so.9
  NEEDED               libnvrtc.so.12
  NEEDED               libstdc++.so.6
  NEEDED               libm.so.6
  NEEDED               libgcc_s.so.1
  NEEDED               libc.so.6
  NEEDED               ld-linux-x86-64.so.2

Motivation and Context

Avoid direct dependency on cuDNN sub libraries, which were introduced in #19470.

#23643