[v18.x backport] src,lib: reducing C++ calls of esm legacy main resolve #49644

H4ad wants to merge 5 commits intonodejs:v18.x-stagingnodejs/node:v18.x-stagingfrom

H4ad:backport-48325-to-v18.xH4ad/node:backport-48325-to-v18.xCopy head branch name to clipboard