[feat] Add option to override infer of folder gid and uid

[robertsLando]

I have found many and many issues related to this breaking change:

#4589
#4095
#3773
#3110

Giving that there is no workaround to this except changing the directory permissions before running a command (that looks awful) could someone consider adding a flag to npm command or/and npm config that allows to override this?

The change is explained here

cc @wraithgar @ruyadorno @lukekarrys @fritzy

I can consider creating a PR if you agree with this

[nlf]

we're aware of these issues, and we've started some discussion towards how we can improve the file ownership story here: npm/rfcs#546

this also applies to child processes, which i think should have their own rules and settings.

anyway, please do feel free to raise any comments, questions or concerns in the link above. i'm going to close this issue as a duplicate of the RFC