Flag Parse Server options which can only be used in certain setups

[mtrezza]

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Issue Description

Certain Parse Server options can only be used (and only have an effect) when starting Parse Server via the CLI. These options lack this restriction in their documentation. For example:

• trustProxy: has no effect when mounting Parse Server on a custom express app; in that case expressApp.set('trust proxy', ...); needs to be used instead
• clusters: can only be used when launching Parse Server via the CLI; has no effect when instantiating a single Parse Server instance

Solution

• Add limitation to the docs for affected options.
• If technically possible log a warning when an option is used in a way where it is ineffective

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[dblythy]

Related: #6894