ARROW-17101: [Java] Update protoc and protoc-gen-grpc-java

[kiszk]

Update protoc-gen-grpc-java and protoc versions to 4.17.0 and 21.2.

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https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-17101

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[lidavidm]

I restarted the s390x Java build since it failed earlier in something unrelated.

[kiszk]

#13638 can fix the failure in arrow-vectors.

[kiszk]

cc @kou

[kou]

+1

Thanks!

[ursabot]

Benchmark runs are scheduled for baseline = 8fd3067 and contender = 461750a. 461750a is a master commit associated with this PR. Results will be available as each benchmark for each run completes.
Conbench compare runs links:
[Failed ⬇️0.0% ⬆️1.79%] ec2-t3-xlarge-us-east-2
[Failed ⬇️3.2% ⬆️0.0%] test-mac-arm
[Failed ⬇️0.0% ⬆️0.0%] ursa-i9-9960x
[Finished ⬇️0.04% ⬆️0.0%] ursa-thinkcentre-m75q
Buildkite builds:
[Failed] 461750a2 ec2-t3-xlarge-us-east-2
[Failed] 461750a2 test-mac-arm
[Failed] 461750a2 ursa-i9-9960x
[Finished] 461750a2 ursa-thinkcentre-m75q
[Failed] 8fd30672 ec2-t3-xlarge-us-east-2
[Failed] 8fd30672 test-mac-arm
[Failed] 8fd30672 ursa-i9-9960x
[Finished] 8fd30672 ursa-thinkcentre-m75q
Supported benchmarks:
ec2-t3-xlarge-us-east-2: Supported benchmark langs: Python, R. Runs only benchmarks with cloud = True
test-mac-arm: Supported benchmark langs: C++, Python, R
ursa-i9-9960x: Supported benchmark langs: Python, R, JavaScript
ursa-thinkcentre-m75q: Supported benchmark langs: C++, Java