branch-3.0: [fix](nereids) proper planning of shadow columns for load and schema change concurrent execution #49332

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Cherry-picked from #49332

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run buildall

[doris-robot]

TPC-H: Total hot run time: 39757 ms

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/tpch-tools
Tpch sf100 test result on commit 42c6da0ea984c3f5a929c7466d47f3ca80031715, data reload: false

------ Round 1 ----------------------------------
q1	17573	6735	6710	6710
q2	2074	176	173	173
q3	10737	1123	1184	1123
q4	10524	760	701	701
q5	7711	2860	2742	2742
q6	224	136	134	134
q7	956	602	612	602
q8	9367	1891	2023	1891
q9	6544	6396	6328	6328
q10	6973	2267	2301	2267
q11	457	266	263	263
q12	395	209	204	204
q13	17812	2974	2998	2974
q14	241	202	215	202
q15	501	461	467	461
q16	673	570	579	570
q17	974	541	518	518
q18	7305	6625	6670	6625
q19	1432	1097	998	998
q20	472	204	199	199
q21	4033	3219	3104	3104
q22	1073	968	1008	968
Total cold run time: 108051 ms
Total hot run time: 39757 ms

----- Round 2, with runtime_filter_mode=off -----
q1	6631	6584	6555	6555
q2	328	238	223	223
q3	2903	2756	2869	2756
q4	2099	1805	1821	1805
q5	5734	5677	5733	5677
q6	212	125	131	125
q7	2223	1831	1807	1807
q8	3374	3551	3507	3507
q9	8800	8883	8822	8822
q10	3528	3477	3464	3464
q11	596	498	500	498
q12	777	610	592	592
q13	9095	3149	3236	3149
q14	292	282	271	271
q15	513	456	455	455
q16	697	653	634	634
q17	1840	1620	1725	1620
q18	8223	7733	7742	7733
q19	1673	1541	1496	1496
q20	2039	1860	1852	1852
q21	5588	5386	5378	5378
q22	1117	1009	1026	1009
Total cold run time: 68282 ms
Total hot run time: 59428 ms

[doris-robot]

TPC-DS: Total hot run time: 198074 ms

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/tpcds-tools
TPC-DS sf100 test result on commit 42c6da0ea984c3f5a929c7466d47f3ca80031715, data reload: false

query1	1279	910	913	910
query2	6231	2021	1983	1983
query3	10866	4522	4287	4287
query4	60240	29439	23640	23640
query5	5276	476	461	461
query6	428	181	181	181
query7	5438	308	313	308
query8	310	227	227	227
query9	8585	2619	2607	2607
query10	473	269	274	269
query11	17811	15363	15635	15363
query12	159	110	105	105
query13	1416	459	442	442
query14	9921	7491	7285	7285
query15	201	190	180	180
query16	7174	408	471	408
query17	1230	611	575	575
query18	1848	351	328	328
query19	215	168	160	160
query20	119	110	111	110
query21	206	104	105	104
query22	4634	4471	4520	4471
query23	34554	34085	33922	33922
query24	6164	2881	2987	2881
query25	516	392	409	392
query26	656	171	183	171
query27	1865	355	356	355
query28	4192	2468	2464	2464
query29	685	444	447	444
query30	238	166	165	165
query31	994	781	849	781
query32	68	56	56	56
query33	482	308	318	308
query34	917	520	521	520
query35	844	747	721	721
query36	1111	985	977	977
query37	119	68	68	68
query38	3997	4047	4053	4047
query39	1576	1516	1471	1471
query40	211	97	97	97
query41	50	46	49	46
query42	108	102	97	97
query43	515	479	486	479
query44	1191	832	835	832
query45	188	173	171	171
query46	1142	730	743	730
query47	2015	1917	1938	1917
query48	495	383	388	383
query49	728	399	392	392
query50	823	446	427	427
query51	7409	7289	7403	7289
query52	103	90	91	90
query53	264	189	190	189
query54	566	471	478	471
query55	91	83	79	79
query56	272	258	262	258
query57	1258	1144	1198	1144
query58	213	226	220	220
query59	3260	3166	3173	3166
query60	285	263	257	257
query61	113	109	113	109
query62	771	668	679	668
query63	212	189	188	188
query64	1397	687	656	656
query65	3301	3191	3201	3191
query66	709	302	303	302
query67	15892	15554	15519	15519
query68	4286	572	569	569
query69	432	281	258	258
query70	1176	1047	1112	1047
query71	354	266	264	264
query72	6358	3994	3971	3971
query73	751	350	363	350
query74	9644	9234	9014	9014
query75	3381	2656	2710	2656
query76	2088	1097	1060	1060
query77	489	284	276	276
query78	10561	9657	9603	9603
query79	1452	606	609	606
query80	883	459	459	459
query81	523	242	237	237
query82	1255	93	92	92
query83	251	148	149	148
query84	289	88	86	86
query85	939	386	289	289
query86	324	275	295	275
query87	4338	4273	4258	4258
query88	3548	2401	2363	2363
query89	419	293	293	293
query90	2011	187	187	187
query91	181	149	149	149
query92	68	50	47	47
query93	1905	549	566	549
query94	747	297	273	273
query95	354	262	264	262
query96	612	277	291	277
query97	3280	3169	3211	3169
query98	216	199	206	199
query99	1588	1274	1275	1274
Total cold run time: 311323 ms
Total hot run time: 198074 ms

[doris-robot]

ClickBench: Total hot run time: 31.71 s

machine: 'aliyun_ecs.c7a.8xlarge_32C64G'
scripts: https://github.com/apache/doris/tree/master/tools/clickbench-tools
ClickBench test result on commit 42c6da0ea984c3f5a929c7466d47f3ca80031715, data reload: false

query1	0.03	0.03	0.03
query2	0.06	0.03	0.03
query3	0.24	0.07	0.07
query4	1.63	0.10	0.10
query5	0.51	0.53	0.51
query6	1.13	0.72	0.73
query7	0.02	0.02	0.02
query8	0.04	0.03	0.03
query9	0.55	0.49	0.49
query10	0.55	0.55	0.54
query11	0.14	0.10	0.10
query12	0.14	0.12	0.11
query13	0.61	0.59	0.58
query14	2.72	2.75	2.83
query15	0.90	0.83	0.82
query16	0.39	0.38	0.38
query17	1.06	0.99	1.02
query18	0.23	0.22	0.22
query19	1.94	1.85	2.03
query20	0.02	0.02	0.01
query21	15.37	0.59	0.59
query22	2.71	2.54	1.63
query23	17.08	0.94	0.75
query24	3.36	1.19	0.87
query25	0.38	0.23	0.05
query26	0.33	0.14	0.13
query27	0.05	0.04	0.04
query28	10.13	0.53	0.46
query29	12.59	3.25	3.26
query30	0.25	0.05	0.05
query31	2.87	0.41	0.38
query32	3.24	0.46	0.47
query33	2.96	3.01	3.04
query34	17.33	4.43	4.45
query35	4.58	4.53	4.48
query36	0.68	0.47	0.47
query37	0.09	0.07	0.06
query38	0.04	0.03	0.04
query39	0.04	0.02	0.02
query40	0.16	0.13	0.13
query41	0.08	0.03	0.02
query42	0.04	0.02	0.02
query43	0.03	0.03	0.03
Total cold run time: 107.3 s
Total hot run time: 31.71 s

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