[C++] Disable parallelism for all `make`-based externalProjects when CMake >= 3.28 is used

[assignUser]

Describe the bug, including details regarding any error messages, version, and platform.

Follow up to #39517 and #39550. Pass -j1 to all make-based externalProjects when CMake version is >3.28.

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[assignUser]

same failure in bzip2 build with previous fix: https://dev.azure.com/ursacomputing/crossbow/_build/results?buildId=59776&view=logs&j=0da5d1d9-276d-5173-c4c4-9d4d4ed14fdb&t=6c939d89-0d1a-51f2-8b30-091a7a82e98c&l=966

[pitrou]

Is there an upstream CMake bug open?

[assignUser]

No as I still haven't had time to get a reproducer working but I'll just open one with the arrow build as example :D